Inspirational Song of the Day: "Maybe" -Angie Stone

I was in the car listening to music and thinking about what my next blog post would be about and the topic of being "Unequally Yoked" came to the forefront of my mind. Then this song came on, "Maybe" by Angie Stone. Just listen to the words and reflect on your relationships. It might be time to get serious or clean house.

Inspirational Song of the Day: New Day by Patti Labelle

Providing Ourselves with Comfort- "Getting to Happy"

 
     Last night while reading Terry McMillan's new book Getting to Happy, the sequel to Waiting to Exhale, I had one of those "Aha" moments.
She wrote:

All I can do is look around the room and hear how loud the silence is already. My marriage is over. I live alone now. This is not the way I dreamed it. This is not what I had hoped for, what I asked for. I want to skip this part. I want to push the fast-forward button until I get back to happy. In fact, I wish Issac would walk back inside this house and wrap his arms around me and hold me close, the way he used to, because even though I know he's the source of this brand-new pain, he's really the only one who can stop it.

      I thought that these words were so profound, so raw and true and honest to real female emotion. And so true to how I feel right now...
Many times our love and the satisfying of our emotions can completely overrule our logic. Despite all the hurt and pain that a relationship gone bad can cause, sometimes even after it's over, you still miss the comfort that it used to bring. We remember and yearn for that person and see them as being our source of comfort even though we know that, that person has also been the source of so much pain.

Why do we do this?
Why do we have this uncontrollable feeling of attachment?

Sometimes I wish I could just snap my fingers and make up mind that I was instantly no longer in love...
Then maybe it wouldn't hurt so much
Then I wouldn't have to worry about my next step
Or if I was handling the situation the right way

If I didn't love so much then I wouldn't care so much
Or spend my day avoiding tears
And spend my nights staring at the ceiling

Where is that "fast-forward button" to happy??!!

Tears of a "STRONG BLACK WOMAN!!" Missing her Father

How easy it is to make plans, appointments, business calls, and business arrangements...

But ever so still stands the underlying motivational force... of pain,
        ... of heartache
           ... of disbelief and shock.
It moves me,
       though I ignore it.
It conjures up feelings that I repress.


And why??!!

Because I'm a "STRONG BLACK WOMAN!!"

I'm a fighter, I'm a worker!

I've got moves to make and bills to pay!

But aren't I also... Simply Human??!!
A feeler of emotion?
A susceptible embarker upon tragedy?


I want to feel!
I want to scream!!
I want to be allowed to go crazy,
      to acceptably be understood as a human with vulnerabilities!!!
To kick and punch in a moment of tantrum and disbelief,
Not quite understanding at the moment why my father had to leave this earth so soon!!!!

Can't I just relish in the pure ignorance and irrational cognition that emotion and pain bring??!!

The Meaning of Complete: Creating Balance in Your Life

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How many of us live tragically content with incompleteness?...
Settled with a resignation to the search for truth, for realness, for what it means to be naturally and completely human.

This gets me to thinking about balance, the theory of The Yin & The Yang.

Not only as women, but as human beings, our life should be dedicated to bringing balance to all aspects of our lives, in our gradual evolution toward completeness. According to the Taoist theory of the Yin and the Yang, the circle represents "the undifferential Unity out of which all of existence arises." The black and white halves within the circle represent feminine and masculine energies whose balance creates the complete One.

Yin & Yang are Co-Arising and Interdependent:


The curves and circles of the Yin-Yang symbol imply a kaleidoscope-like movement. This implied movement represents the ways in which Yin and Yang are mutually-arising, interdependent, and continuously transforming, one into the other. One could not exist without the other, for each contains the essence of the other. Night becomes day, and day becomes night. Birth becomes death, and death becomes birth (think: composting). Friends become enemies, and enemies become friends. Such is the nature - Taoism teaches - of everything in the relative world. (http://taoism.about.com/od/visualsymbols/p/YinYang.htm)

Now let's take that concept and apply it to ourselves!